Monday, October 29, 2012

Talking Post 9: Sex Positive

To be perfectly honest in high school I was a prude ( - A person who is or claims to be easily shocked by matters relating to sex or nudity.)  Within my group of friends I was the last to have sex, and they always poked fun at me because of it.  But I was raised on the mindset that I should wait until I'm married to have sex, and can only have sex with one person in my lifetime, and I obviously cannot talk to anyone about sex.  But thankfully my mindset has changed over time.  Now don't get me wrong, I'm not someone who sleeps around, but I am someone who believes that it is healthy to have sex as long as you're smart about it.

This is why I thought Rachel Rabbit White's: 8 Ways To Be Positive You're Sex Positive was a perfect example of why sex is ok.  Right off the bat she says, "Having sex is healthy, but so is NOT HAVING SEX!!!"  Sex positivity has long been about "owning our desires" but it should also be about owning our lack of desires too.  And for me at least I wanted to wait until I was married or to know that I was with someone who wasn't going to break my heart after I gave them everything.   


  1. Hi Noelle,
    I give up props on coming out and explaining your situation in high school. I feel that teens in the new generation are to much into drugs, and affectionate relationships. Teens think that having having sex puts them above the other kids in school. I just think its crazy. Nice Blog :)

  2. SEX SOLVES EVERYTHING lol that was nicely put in the video, but good for you for sharing your background and finding that right person

  3. Hey Noelle,
    I am so glad that you waited until you were more mature and ready. Unfortunately, many young kids do not have that patience this days.

  4. your video was perfect example of what these two articles were trying to get at here.
    and to fall on a more personal note i like how you told us about your high school experience.. and i feel for you because i have the same story. i spent 3 out of 4 years of high school a virgin and it was either i was being made fun of for this, or i was praised by a guy who was just trying to get into my pants.. it was mostly the second one. i waited, and honestly.. i still wish i waited longer. the person i lost my virginity too did the worst thing you could do to a GF, cheat. it crushed me.. but made me stronger and i do not regret the things in my life, but obviously i do wish things worked out differently. it is great how you said you waited until you were more mature and ready. i wish it was the same for me! obviously i was the more mature one in my relationship.

    i do also agree how you said sex is healthy.. now that the "seal is broken" it is time to experience, but still stay true to yourself. as long as YOU are okay with what you're doing thats all that matters.