I disagree with Frye's statement about when a man holds a door for a woman it is oppressive. She says, "the door-opening and similar services provided are services which really are needed by people who are for one reason or another incapacitated - unwell, burdened with parcels, etc. So the message is that women are incapable (page 177)." According to freedictionary.com the definition of oppression is: To keep down by severe and unjust use of force or authority. Personally I don't see how holding a door open for someone is keeping someone down, in my opinion it's chivalry.
Personally, I think that holding the door open is just the right thing to do when someone is behind you. I work as a hostess at a local restaurant, and I open the door for everyone, and people are always surprised and taken off guard, as if it has never happened to them before.
I am sadden to read your position on oppression, and know even though I don't know what you are going through. What I do know is that I can relate to you on your position. I have been struggle for about a year today with my illness and know that life is not easy and that people look at you like your are not normal. I don't let my illness get the best of me, but that is still a hard task to do. I agree that guys should open the door for you or anyone that is in front of you because it shows courtesy. It also is one way to see how much a guy is into you.
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